In carrying out several hundred cases of coaching to individuals of the public and the corporation management, more and more similar behavior, performance and fundamental issues are observed between the two apparent different entities : e.g. a mother and a manager.
As such, coaching approach used by undersigned, namely, Mindset Emotion Coaching and Energy Psychology Coaching are gradually being merged, to give the maximum benefit to the client, whether public (e.g. a mother stressed by children) or corporate manager.
Below is a discussion on identifying the similarities to enable speedy and more effective intervention to be carried out to help the client to move forward, to produce the desired results.
A case from an angry mother ..
- “I just screamed at my son this morning for his tantrum of missing out his toy.
- I almost slapped him but I control. Having said that, actually I know those words come out from my month had already hurt him.
- I regretted but I just let him down from the car to school.
- Actually i know I'm too tense for being a mom, a daughter, a sister, a wife , a responsible staff...............
I am scared I might break down too...
- I think it's time to join the Energy Psychology workshop
Andrew, do u plan to have one for all working mom?”
Now, using the above case, we change the context to an organization setting, say a General Manager is mad with his staff, …
- “I just screamed at this stupid staff for again messing up the report at this crucial timing when I have to face the Board of Directors.
- I almost slapped him but I control. Having said that, actually I know those words come out from my month hurt me more, as I can feel my heart pumping faster, my shoulders get tensed up.
- I regretted that I cannot calm myself down.
- Actually I know I’m too tense for being a boss, a father (as I can’t help myself behaving such way towards one of my children, who never pays attention to his study), and husband …
- I am scared I might get a heart attack at this rate.”
Is there any different fundamentally?
No. In both cases, negative energies are generated by one-self, and also do harm to the other parties. If continue regularly at such rate, the negative consequences are not hard to imagine, not only to one-self but also to the family or organization.
In both cases, there is lack of Emotional intelligence, and both need the knowledge and skills to diffuse the negative energies towards positive energies. And the coaching process I use is the same for both.
In another situation, organization members make complaints to me that recent management policy is very harsh and unfair. That is, staff yearly performance rating below par and not meeting the KPI, six month notice is given. If the staff still cannot buckle up, he has to leave the company.
Staff complaints are :performance system is biased, management is unfair, staff did work very hard with good results, but the poorly designed kPI did not reflect such, etc.
I also handle cases of patients, just given the medical report that they may have six month to live, due to advanced cancer growth.
Again, what are the differences between the above two?
Really there is not much difference:
In term of mindset, they are quite the same : staff thinks that the system is unfair, the cancer patient thinks that the life is not fair to him. The former thinks he has work very hard, the later think that he has done a lot of charity work, being a good father, husband and employee.
In term of limiting beliefs, there are parallels : staff think that such negative performance report means the end of the world, or his career. The patient think that there is no more hope – to live till older age.
In term of negative emotion, again similar: the staff feel despair, fear, anxiety , resentments, … most cancer patients feel likewise.
Coaching process for both categories of people is the same, with the aim of helping the coachee to create new positive mindset, install new belief system to take next firm step to move forward and to transform the negative emotional energies to productive energies.