A few days ago I completed 12 coaching cases in one day, each case took about 30 min. as per the event requirement, i.e. stream of visitors came to have a brief experience on coaching.

Number Psychology tool was used, that greatly helped to focus on the underlying issues and structure more quickly.

Some sharing of issues and learning gathered.

Note: Words in brackets [ ] are attributes of some Numbers.

Challenges / Issues presented:

• Loss of direction in life
• Mid-life crisis
• Uncertainty about change of career
• Anxiety about starting a new business
• Wanting to write off last 40 years of “Life is a Failure”
• Difficulties to find a life-long partner
• Rejection of a robotic life to care-free life, which becomes another problem
• Financial difficulty
• Outflow of money is faster than in-flow
• Relationship issues
• Easily gets bored, need many different activities and more freedom and become confused about life goal.
• Health issue - diabetes

Learning and Realization

• Habitual repetition of the past pattern of personality and approaches to life that creates today problem, yet unknowingly
• Difficulty to balance between the [Freedom] and [Stability]
• Unwise conclusion about past mistakes that contributes to today problem
• Expectation of something with a rigid set of mindset
• Not realizing the need of some [System] and [Stability] before one can enjoy the full degree of [Freedom] and [Creativity].
• Not realizing self-sabotaging pattern with a negative buried image, yet wanting a positive outcome
• Not fully conscious of need of [Discipline] in order to achieve [Freedom]
• Not aware of negative experiences during childhood that contributes to today problem
• Not able to face Reality as it is, and continue to avoid and deny presenting problem
• Fear of rejection and being abandoned, and continue to withdraw and hide in a castle.
• How different aspects of the personalities create the present problem e.g. lack of [Self confidence] [Un-decisiveness] [Avoidance of problem by wanting freedom to do many other things] [Withdrawal into own inner world for comfort, mistaken as peace-seeking]
• Compulsion to [serve other people] and forget own needs till own threshold being stressed and become frustrated and give up.
• Difficulty in [expressing] one’s own inner feelings and emotion and resort to accusation and attack on another person.
• Resentment against another person creates behavior that self-sabotaged
• Conclusion and belief system created arising from childhood negative experience that sub-consciously operate on today living, creating today problems.
• New choice of career, being an artist, with Care-Free attitudes to create and express and such strategy is also used in care-free money spending and contribute to today financial problem.
• Using meditation, yoga, healing activities as escapism – not facing reality squarely, thus going against the hidden potentials of manifestation that can make contribution to mankind.

Action and Implementation

In all cases, when the client-coachee sees the underlying structure that create today problem, he or she brainstorms some action plan for implementation.

A range of action …

• Review and modify a belief system e.g. “Life is Free and Go with the Flow”, the client is to add some conditions to the statement.
• Taking action on doing physical exercise with schedule and discipline to overcome the presenting health problem
• Read books on successful people who had overcome the same mental, emotional and psychological obstacles.
• Deliberately choosing situations to experience and test one’s self confidence, or self expression or discipline or boredom … and not running away from the negatives.
• Trying out the same strategy (that previously created the problems) but with higher consciousness on other variables so as to identify real causes of the problem.
• Action plan that can generate and reflect self-love.
• Practicing self expression of feelings and emotions, without using language that accuses or attacks the other person.
• Accept and forgive the past negatives and create new attitudes to move on with life.
• Action on creating some stability in order to enjoy full expression of Freedom and Creativity later.
• Design new goals or focus that have greater possibility to engage the other party who currently is part of the relationship problem.

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