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A client presenting challenges were : currently facing a lot of problems, e.g. in business, problems with customers, staff, at home children often get sick etc.
As a result he has to attend to all these problems, making him very tired and stressed.
He admits that he does not have an effective way to cope with all these stresses, as he can feel the negative emotions in him, not feeling relaxed in any way and has much bodily discomfort and pain.
For many years, he has the habit to keep sorrow to himself, suppressing his emotions and not expressing any.
He further admits that he has very little self-esteem, and he tries to compensate such negativity by working very hard to cope with life, and that further stresses him more.
His numerological number is 37/10.
Guided by the attributes of the numerological number, Number Psychology coaching was used to help him to further get in touch with his true self. The coaching process reveals the following self-realization .....
Growing up from un-stable, disturbed family in his childhood, his coping strategies were a) hoping tomorrow a better day (but better day never comes) and not able, nor knew how to face and accept the reality (accept what cannot be changed, change what cannot be accepted), thus he learns how to avoid his true self b) channel his energy outward in getting himself engaged in all sorts of things, taking upon excessive responsibilities, and hence he does not need to face his own inner feeling, suffering and calling. He felt himself unworthy, and hence does not deserve much in life. All these reinforces the limiting belief that life is suffering.
With such unconscious deeply buried limiting belief - life is suffering, his focus is to pick up things that get him stressed and suffered more.
He is, not able to make firm decision, .i.e..his current dilemma and confusion often felt i.e. If any decision is made, he regrets a lot. This reminds him of earlier childhood, due to parents often quarreled, he had difficulty to decide to side who, regretted later. He wished he could make himself non-existent, hence not need to face the true self.
He further realizes that the problems he faced now with stress and suffering in fact generates psychological side benefits : i.e. a) he can avoid facing his true self and feeling as he channels his attention outwards, i.e. avoidance strategy, b) the more he is in the stressed and suffering situations, the more he feels like a victim, just like what he experienced in his childhood, with the hidden hope that people will pity and sympathize with him.
With such self realization, coaching further helps him to formulate more useful belief systems and action and implementation to nurture the new belief system.
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