There is this video about adult son hitting the old parents in China. It is very distasteful, as values of respecting old people, what more parents, are considered vital important.
I have another reflection watching the video.
I had a coaching case of an old lady, whose adult son’s patience has been stretched by her to a limit. The old lady for the last year or so, became very temperamental, scolding the in-laws and the maid and accusing the son for stealing her money, and wanted her to die soon.
The old mother has pain here and there, discomfort every day which she complains non-stop. The son and family try their very best to accommodate her, bring her to clinic and hospitals.
But nothing improves. And the son wonders it is because of her psychological issues and calls me for help.
I also come across some adult children, with such difficult case, lost their patience and hit the old parents, which they regret greatly later.
Psychological Issue or Physiological Issue
After my coaching session with the old mother, I explained to the family it is not psychological issues but her body organs system deteriorate badly, with lots of imbalances, and these affect the mood and behaviors.
This is similar to autistic child’s behavioral problems arising from physiological imbalances or called Yin-Yang imbalance.
This is the key principle of YEIC : psychology and physiology affecting each other.
Both the old mother and the adult children do not know YEIC Life Cultivation 养生 principles, meaning if the old lady knows YEIC, and if she practices Life Cultivation before her old age, her body internal system, though may deteriorate, but in a more balanced manner. (In my previous articles, I mentioned how emotions affect organs, like Anger affects Liver, Fear affects Kidneys）, ..
And the children do not know YEIC and they hope doctors can help the mother, but doctors can’t. Because Western Medicine never considers psychology and emotion as part of the body organs systems.
Some people, without Life Cultivation, when come to old age, they may not manifest in behavioral problems, but illnesses like diabetes, Parkinson, cancers etc.
I suggest to the adult children and in-law to learn YEIC so as to apply Life Cultivation for their mother. One cannot depend on medicine and doctors (Western Medicine or TCM) forever. But, like most people, the children expect me to give a magical pill or solution, without them having to learn new things with application.
This is a common mindset of people. “Too busy with life, if sick, see doctors”. This is very different from YEIC, which stress the importance on Life Cultivation to prevent sickness.
It is difficult for me to convince them, nor do I want to convince them, but only explain to them. Obviously the adult children do not think what may happen to them when they grow old. Most people assume, today my health is quite Ok, I should be ok in the future. Is that so?
I see the adult children and in-law still busy sending the old grumbling mother from clinic to TCM doctors to hospitals.
It is pitiful people get caught in vicious circle without any breakthrough.
This discussion involves a few key concepts which are elaborated in the online training. “5 Consciousness and 5 Organs 五神对应五脏” “Emotions and Organs 情志”，”Life Cultivation 养生”，”Functionalities of Organs 脏腑功能”
“Words in Chinese are texts from the book YEIC, 3000 years ago.”
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